Showing posts from November, 2013

Becoming Comfortable, Being Different

By: Nicole

Being Comfortable, Being a Different Type of Family

So many people prefer to live in drama because it’s comfortable. It’s like someone staying in a bad marriage or relationship – it’s actually easier to stay because they know what to expect every day, versus leaving and not knowing what to expect. Ellen DeGeneres
I recently re-watched the Emmy-Award-Winning Ellen DeGeneres in her 2010 HBO special at the Beacon Theatre in NY. This special is hilarious, and also thought provoking in our (meaning society’s) attitudes towards others. At the time of the special, Ellen had only been ‘out’ for a few years and was truly a pioneer for the gay and lesbian community and their supporters. I have always admired Ellen for so many reasons. Mostly, I love her uniqueness and the way she gives off such a strong sense of being comfortable with herself. Right down to being the voice of Dory, my favorite Nemo character, I think Ellen is really fabulous. The character Dory has an overwhelming number…

Sneaky Wednesday

By Pat,
So by the time we get back to the hotel I can't even stand being in the same car as the boys, only back a week and they are driving me nuts. Fighting, pushing each others limits, pushing my limits, and I can't stand them. They have gotten me cranky and I don't want to listen to them for a second. All normal kid stuff but rubbing me the wrong way. Then we get in the room and they are still going at it, I get fed up and pulled out the pool card, that's it, we're not going! Of course we still were, but it at least got their attention. I just needed a few minutes to settle myself down and then off to the pool. Once we got inside it was complete relaxation, they just needed space to get their energy out, and I had a big glass of wine, i'm sure it was just coincidence. The boys ran around, splashed, we stayed up late and even watched a little show at 9:45 on a tuesday, how, because it's sneaky wednesday tomorrow.

The Power of Touch-- What a Hug can do for a Child

By NicoleWhen you say nothing at all...

It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart
Without saying a word you can light up the dark
Try as I may I could never explain
What I hear when you don't say a thing
The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes sayin' you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best when you say nothing at all
All day long I can hear people talking out loud
But when you hold me near you drown out the crowd
Old Mr. Webster could never define
What's being said between your heart and mine
The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes sayin' you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best when you say nothing at all

Alison Krauss - When You Say Nothing At All Lyrics | MetroLyrics

Have you ever had a time where you try using words to comfort your child and realize tha…

With my boys... finally.

By Pat
Finally at home with my boys, well, more home in spirit then actual home. At a hotel, that has a pool, and vending machines! So easy to forget the things that crack me up about our kids. Such a love of all things electronic! Back into the madness of life, right away driving to basketball games, up to Gaga's and Pepere's house in NH, sick kid, back to cambridge and finally at hotel to the pool. Exhale. After a swim and a large 1/2 pepperoni I could sit back and relax with the fellas. Got the lowdown on school, girls, homework and new games. Everyone is doing great, as am I. I only get it for a little while until I head back so I'll enjoy it while I can. Ryan has his head stuck in books and talks excitedly about crazy ideas, Cole still more sensitive then the rest but definitely "hates" a specific girl in school, and Owen is very excited to show me all the work he's doing in school. So I sat and talked all things about spelling and words and found out hi…

Prioritizing time--How do I find the time?

By Nicole

To our followers:

First, thanks for reading our blog Imperfect Love! We know it's immensely imperfect, and so are we!
But writing this blog has been a spiritual and emotional adventure for me, and I really appreciate the feedback I've gotten along the way. I feel passionate about sharing what works (and doesn't work) in our blended family, and my humble lessons in co-parenting and love.

It's been several weeks since I've completed any piece of writing. (I have several that I've started, but never finished.)  Life has actually been so full lately that I haven't been able to write. Times like these, the best I can do is to make time to think about what I want to say next...

So many friends ask me how I even have the time to write a blog--they make a good point! When I write, I'm choosing NOT to do something else. But, isn't it true that we make time for what we want to? (In our free time that is.) We make choices every day as to what we'…